Child marriage is still happening in the U.S. It is still legal in 45 states. There were approximately 200,000 legally married in the United States between 2000 and 2015. But, there’s more.
People can get Federal Government approval for marrying a minor as young as 13-years-old simply by going to another country and applying for a petition to bring the child bride into the United States. This continues to happen today in 2021.
New York Times
Dani States 0:01
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John Newport 0:36
And welcome back to the girls ask guys show where we’re your guide to dating, life, love, marriage, relationships, and everything else. And we have a shocking episode for you today that we’re going to introduce, and you’re not going to want to miss that on Thursday, because this thing is gonna be freaking huge. We’re talking about child brides.
Ashley Sanders 1:00
It’s really insane that we, in this day and age even have to discuss this. John brought this to the table. And I’m like, there’s no way this is real. And then he sends me these articles. And I’m like, Oh, my gosh,
John Newport 1:13
Some of them come from CBS News, where they researched immigration paperwork, where there’s a loophole in the law, to where you can legally marry a child. I’m talking as young as 13 years old, and bring them to the United States. And there are loopholes within us state laws.
Ashley Sanders 1:38
It’s criminal. Like, I hate to say it this way, but it’s completely criminal. And that to me is child trafficking. If you go to another country, and you try and bring a child over with the idea of marriage behind it, that’s trafficking.
John Newport 1:55
The immigration laws don’t see it that way. Because what they look at is, is the marriage legal in the country of origin? If it’s legal there, then the United States will recognize that marriage and allow the couple to come over.
Ashley Sanders 2:11
That’s so weird, man. And you know, is the worst part is there’s probably some fucking sicko sitting there justifying this like, Well, technically, it’s not illegal. I can’t imagine, at 13 years old to be, like I want to marry this person.
John Newport 2:29
And the fact that this is happening today, in the 21st century, is mind blowing, really, this whole show I was looking at and researching how dating has changed throughout time, going from ancient Rome, all the way through today. And I came across just a single sentence that said, contemporary courting age for that time period, and it conflicted with what I had learned about marriage during that time period. So I started researching that, and an article popped up and it showed 5000. under age, women have been married in Colorado, and I just went down that rabbit hole. And the more I dug, the more I found,
Ashley Sanders 3:16
To me, it’s crazy, because we really talk about how we live in a progressive society. me and you especially, we always talk about how things are changing for the better, and how things are getting better for men and women. And to find out things are just terrible for preteen, just pisses me off.
John Newport 3:34
Yeah, there was a request sent into immigration. And they approved a 13 year old coming over. And this was a petition of a minor involved in an approval it’s under form I-130. And it was approved,
Ashley Sanders 3:34
Do they get the permission as the kids parents?
John Newport 3:55
They don’t need it.
Ashley Sanders 3:56
That’s fucking discusting.
John Newport 3:57
Well, because most of it is, it’s a forced marriage by the parents. Because once that child has a passport, or they have legalized citizenship in the United States, the child can then petition for the rest of the family to come over.
Ashley Sanders 4:14
I get that I really do. I understand the concept and I just can’t wrap my mind around the people who are marrying the kids. It’s not necessarily the idea that you get married. It’s the idea that there’s somebody in this world who literally is trying to marry a child and then use the guise of citizenship is like, well, if you marry me, your whole family can come over. It’s predatory.
John Newport 4:39
Right. There was even a revelation that nearly 4000 minors, mostly girls, were married in a state from 1995 through 2012 and 178 of them were under the age of 15. And they were forced into these marriages.
Ashley Sanders 4:58
I’m speechless. I’m absolutely speechless. And you know just how hard that is to do. It’s just,
John Newport 5:04
This whole thing is just mind blowing.
Ashley Sanders 5:07
Like I said, the parents, and the kid, who are doing the marriage, I can understand the concept of, well, if you do this for mom and dad, we’ll all be able to be together in the future. But what I don’t understand is the predator who is saying, hey, marry me. Or even, I’m sure there’s predators that are even worse.
John Newport 5:27
Ashley Sanders 5:27
Who are like, sure, if you marry me, I’ll take your daughter to America. And we’ll petition and they never fuckin petition.
John Newport 5:33
And there’s nothing for the rest of family to do. And now this child is trapped in a relationship,
Ashley Sanders 5:41
All because some fucking sicko…
John Newport 5:44
Their entire life, their childhood is gone.
Ashley Sanders 5:47
It’s heartbreaking, I would say is the number one word.
John Newport 5:50
Ashley Sanders 5:51
It’s also just a alarming. And it’s kind of scary to think that you see a kid who came from a different country with someone else. And all you can do is just hope that that person really did have their best interests in mind.
John Newport 6:07
These are kids who should be in like junior high, and going through and enjoying the whole junior high, high school experience, and then possibly going into college. just figuring out that whole aspect of our lives, going to parties going to concerts and everything else. No, what they do is that they get to go home to a husband…
Ashley Sanders 6:28
John Newport 6:29
Fixing dinner and cleaning the house, instead of going out and partying with their friends.
Ashley Sanders 6:34
I don’t see the appeal. I don’t see the appeal of keeping a child hostage for your own fucking ego. I don’t understand why the government…
John Newport 6:43
Ashley Sanders 6:44
Would allow that. I don’t care if it’s recognized in this country. That’s their country’s problem.
John Newport 6:49
This is our government that comes down on top of pedophiles and sentences these people to life in prison. They are the most abused people in the correctional system. However, because the marriage was legal in another country, they allow it to happen here and this person is going well you can’t touch me because the federal government that usually prosecutes people like me, I get away with it.
Ashley Sanders 7:13
Right. And I would like to make the definitive statement right here and now. If you’re thinking of getting a fucking child bride, you are not welcome to listen to the show.
John Newport 7:22
Right. I just watched the episode where we have law enforcement agents from our country who has legal status in other countries to help investigate people who travel from our country to go to another country to have sex with an underage minor in that country. And they prosecute them, they prosecute them there. And then they extradited back over here and they prosecute them here under US law. However, because of this loophole, we cannot prosecute these people for going over and marrying an underage person.
Ashley Sanders 7:54
Yeah, no, like I said, and I mean, this wholeheartedly. If you don’t find anything wrong with that, this is not show for you. Because that is some predatory ass weird shit. And, you know what? There needs to be a fuck a loophole, there needs to be a literal law that says, If you bring a child over here, that is not your fucking child, you’re going to Guantanamo Bay or something like that.
John Newport 8:16
This is going to be like, an epic episode.This is an investigation that I never in my wildest dreams, thought that we would be doing on this show.
Ashley Sanders 8:28
Absolutely, me either. Nothing ever planned for. But I think as we get once we get to Thursday show and we start doing it. And we get deeper into this, you guys are gonna see probably a lot of passion and emotion because this isn’t something we ever want to fuckin talk about, by the way. Like, we don’t look on the news and say, Hey, hopefully kids getting kidnapped today. No, the reason we talk about these things is because they bother us. And there’s things that we’re able to speak about, because we’ve grown our platform big enough. And we hope that it makes an impact on other people.
John Newport 9:00
Yeah. Not only do we have that, we also have where most of these requests come from, and which ones have the highest approval ratings. This is something that really, really bothers me. And I think this stuff existed nowadays, but apparently it is still happening in 2021. Almost 20, we’re coming up on 2022. We’re halfway through this year, and it’s still happening.
Ashley Sanders 9:26
This is going to be a fucking doozy.
John Newport 9:28
Yeah. So with that, we will talk to you on the next one.
Dani States 9:36
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