You want a great question or even just a good question to ask a guy. Do you want to make a good impression without having it feel like asking was your biggest regret? Well, the Girls Ask Guys Show is here to help with some useful information.
The best part about asking guys questions is that it is the perfect idea to set a good mood. Great questions get you his best story and set you up for a perfect date.
You don’t need to get very wrapped up in how to ask good questions. Any question that is funny, slightly personal, or even serious that has lots of possible answers is what you are looking for. The sweetest thing about this approach is that you get to a comfort zone with him. These conversation starters allow you to get to know him even deeper which is a setting for a perfect relationship. Girl bonus!
Keep in mind that some men will like answering different questions more than others. There may be times when you will need more effort to get to that deeper level of connection. That effort will allow him to open up with more information. Some guys are not the easiest, but get the right personal question and you will get clear signs he’s ready to open up.
Developing Good Dating Questions for Guys
The best compliment you to know you are on the right track is when the guy says “that’s an awesome question.” The weird thing is that the right questions can keep you out of the friend zone. That is not the ideal relationship you are looking for.
You kind of need to have a thought catalog of questions that can cover his entire life. Everything from his weirdest gift to the hardest thing he ever did, to his family values. Oh, and don’t forget about those flirty questions that ask about his favorite steamiest movies and worst habit.
Some great questions can come from the conversations you have had with your best friends. Imagine you’re sitting with your best friend, and they told their favorite joke. Remember the time when you watched the best episodes of your favorite television series with your best friend? Those the times you want to draw from when thinking of questions.
In addition to this, you also want to encourage him to ask you questions. This can lead to thinking of more things to ask and the sharing of stories. This is really getting to know if he could be your future true love.
Things To Consider Before Asking
One thing you do not want to do is an interrogation of him when asking questions. Some men will give short answers without any details if they find questions uninteresting or too personal. Then there are guys who will tense up if they feel the same way about the questions.
When you notice this happening, the best course of action for you to take is to move to an unrelated topic. Many men enjoy talking about cars, technology, movies, sports, and games. Try to start with these types of questions before getting to the personal questions.
Going into your thought catalog to come up with the right questions to ask may seem like the hardest thing to at first. It’s not as difficult as you may think.
Questions To Ask Guys Categories
To keep things simple you will want to know what type of relationship you have with the man. Being in a committed relationship allows for different questions than someone you are just dating. You also do not want to ask a deeply personal question if you are not in the right venue.
To start off you might ask what the best online games are as an opening ice breaker. You could also ask what his favorite movie title is and follow that up with his favorite movie line. These are rather quick and easy to answer without any real right or wrong answer. He would not be risking a lot or investing too much of himself at this point.
To go a little deeper you could ask what his current goal is and what the biggest problem he faces in achieving that goal. It’s a little more personal, but it allows him to tell a story and ask the same question back to you.
Getting even deeper would be questions such as asking what he considers his best physical feature to be. A funny one is asking if he has any fake personas on a dating site. Asking the right personal questions and knowing when to ask them is key. The more you know him and the longer you know the guy the more personal and deeper you can get.
Your thought catalog of questions should include questions that cover a range of topics. Try to always mix things up between funny questions, thought-provoking, simple and easy, to personal. When you progress through the four stages of a relationship you can get even more personal.
We hope by now you see that asking questions isn’t that hard to. You also do not need a lot of questions to get the conversation flowing which will keep the questions naturally coming.
Ice Breaker Questions
We realize some of you may still need some help. Here are 15 questions in various categories that you can ask a guy to get the ball rolling.
- What’s your favorite thing to eat?
- What’s the biggest thing on your bucket list?
- Do you have a worst movie ever made that you love to watch?
- What’s the weirdest thing that’s ever happened to you?
- If you were a DJ, what would your DJ name be?
- If you were a ghost, who would you like to haunt?
- If you could have one superpower, what would it be?
- If you could live in any time period, which one would you choose?
- Say you were an emperor of a country, what laws would you have?
- What’s your favorite memory?
- What’s the scariest dream you ever had?
- Who was your first celebrity crush?
- Where’s the strangest place you ever kissed somebody? (I meant on their body)
- Do you have a go-to flirting move?
- If you had a porn name, what would it be?
More on flirting below.
A Good Starting Point To Build A Bond
There is an important point that you want to remember when asking questions. You don’t want to come off as trying to impress anyone with a conversation.
Conversations take place so that you can discover who the other person is, and they can find out who you are. You should not approach a date by trying to be what you think the other person wants. That approach is what makes dating feel overwhelming and full of stress. Be who you are and allow the conversations to flow.
Conversations are supposed to be enjoyable and help you connect and bond with the other person. The easy way to create that connection is to move the topics around between silly and serious questions. You want to come away from the date feeling like you both learned something about each other.
Below we have included some general questions with explanations about the question. The explanations are there as a way for you to filter the person you are dating. This really only works if you know the traits you are looking for. If you need help you can look at John’s or Ashley’s list of traits that they look for.
Try to put a list of traits of the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. Remember that it can take time to discover all of those traits. The easiest way to find out if the person has those base traits is to ask questions that can reveal a certain trait. Remember to explore the question a little further. Don’t take their response as a total reveal of who they are or of a specific trait.
Use the response and combine it with their other answers to get a more clear picture of whom the guy is. It can take several questions to get a clear picture of a single trait.
Questions On A First Date
What do you do in your free time?
This may seem like a very general question that doesn’t mean anything. It can be very useful though in finding out what their hobbies are, or how they de-stress after a hard day at work. You can also find out if they are a stay at home type or the outdoor type. They might be a day or night person.
Do you have anything you are kind of obsessed with these days?
Almost everyone goes through phases where we simply cannot get enough of something. We get wrapped up in a book series or learning a new topic. What is their most recent obsession and is it something you may be into as well?
What would your friends say you are best known for?
This is a little more personal but can be very fun as well. Someone who is having a great time is more willing to lay it all out there. They might even spill that embarrassing moment their friends will not forget.
A person who is a little more reserved might mention a trait that they have such as being reliable, helping, or being honest.
When you ask this question think of the previous conversation you had. If you just had a serious conversation, you will likely get a serious answer.
Questions To Get To Know Him
These are questions you can ask to see a little deeper into whom the person really is, what they care about and their interests.
If you could have any job in the world what would it be?
This is a question that can change over time due to current interests or events happening in the world. Some people may have never even thought about it while others may have grand dreams and goals. Follow this question up by asking why, or help them by adding the phrase ‘if money and time were of no concern.’
What is the most relaxing thing you could imagine?
This is the ultimate de-stress question that can go in many directions. Just remember to not ask it after a flirty question unless you want a flirty answer. Responses to this could be along the lines of a perfect day or morning. You might even get a dream vacation response. If things go well, this an answer you want to remember for the future.
When you were a kid, what seemed like the best thing about growing up?
This is one of those in-depth questions that people do commonly ask. Be ready for the other person to reverse on you if they don’t have an immediate answer. Some people will have a hard time answering because they really never thought about it. Other people will have a quick response such as being able to drive, stay up late, or able to drink alcohol.
What we have found is that people who can answer this question quickly and are able to expand on the answer. They tend to be more in touch with their inner child than those who have real trouble answering the question.
Going Deep Questions
These questions are your more serious questions where it will show that you are looking for information about the other person. These are more personal questions and require more thought. When someone answers these questions they are open themselves up, so keep that in mind.
View Of Life
Do you believe that everything happens for a reason?
This may not seem like a deep question at first. It does reveal how a person accepts or rejects what happens in their life. Is everything a series of random events or is there a higher power at work in their life? Are they more of a pessimist or an optimist?
If you knew you were going to die in a year, what would you change about how you live?
This is one of those questions that can be fun and deep at the same time. It just depends on the previous topic you that you came off of. It’s not a question that people often ask and not many people think about it. The question has the possibility to show if a person is living their life on their terms or not.
Some answers may be pure fantasy while others may be more in-depth and heartfelt. The answer you want to be looking for is whether the person you are dating is living their best life. Everyone should be trying to live their best life.
A long list of changes could be something you may want to note. A shortlist could show that they have goals they have yet to achieve. You don’t want to totally judge a person on this question alone. Take the answer they give in context with all the other conversations.
Type of Life
If you knew you people would not judge for something, what would you immediately do differently?
Here is a question that is really different. It’s also a topic that people don’t really talk about. People tend to fear judgment and hold back because of social standards and rules. If those rules no longer applied what would do differently?
This question can allow you to see how closely someone abides by social norms or conforms to other people’s opinions of them. How authentic they are with themselves?
This can be a hard question to answer for a lot of people. You don’t want to judge the person on their answer. Take it in context and reinforce that they can be their authentic self around you. It is an intriguing question that can lead to a very interesting conversation.
Coming To A Close
There are all kinds of questions that you can ask a guy. There is no real limit to what you can ask. Some of the best places to find other ideas are to go to a dating site and find some online dating questions. Take those online dating questions and re-word them in a way that they apply to real life.
With practice, you will develop your favorite cute ways to ask those hard questions. Those hard questions move the relationship forward or show that he is not the man for you.
A few areas that we have not touched on. These are questions that deal with his favorite thing, the best birthday, favorite family member, or earliest memories.
Favorite Thing Questions
These tend to be low hanging fruit and do not really reveal a lot in the beginning. Things like a favorite book, a favorite song, or even a favorite word can spark a little interest but short conversations. They are okay as ice breakers and gap fillers.
Try to hold off on these types of questions for later dates. The reveal can come with a lot more meaning and depth in the answer.
We recommend holding on family type questions unless he brings it up or you know him better. The reason is a lot of people may not have had the best childhood. To ask these questions early could bring up memories they prefer to not remember early in a potential new relationship.
By all means, do ask these questions as you do need to know about him and what has influenced his life. We recommend that you hold off on these types of questions. Get to know a little more about him or let him opens a door that invites those questions.
Along the same lines as family questions, the topic of birthdays and holiday type questions can bring up unpleasant memories for some people.
Even asking a person what their biggest flaws could bring memories of getting picked on in school. This isn’t any kind of scientific tip it’s just being a little extra courteous towards the other person. Try holding off on these just like you would hold off on family questions. Allow the guy to open the topic or wait until you know him a little better.
Gettin’ Flirty With It
One of the biggest things a lot of women ask is how to get flirty with a guy. The first thing we recommend is to know what type of flirt you are naturally and then know what of an outcome you desire. We also have a post on flirting mistakes. It’s a recommended read.
There are five types of flirting you can do and each has a specific type of outcome. We have some episodes that cover this along with supporting posts.
You may get to a point that you want to start getting more flirty. To help you, here are some questions that go from laying the foundation to full-on innuendos. The questions below fall into the overt flirt category.
Foundation Flirt Questions
- What would your perfect morning look like?
- Did you notice you keep making me smile?
- If you won a trip to anywhere in the world, where would you take me and what would we do?
Upping The Flirt Game
- What was the first thing you thought of when you saw me? No, really what went through your mind?
- In three simple words, how would you describe me?
- What’s your favorite way to say good night? How about a good morning?
Full Flirt Questions
- Are you a cuddle person or make-out person?
- What’s something that can keep you up at night?
- Hmm, so is giving or receiving?
- What would you say is your biggest talent?
We hope this article has helped you in finding and developing questions you can ask a guy to get to know him better. Still need help feel free to reach out to us on our contact page.
Dating should be easy and fun. Asking questions is the only way anyone can find their true love.